Couples Therapy
Words Matter
Good communication is an essential ingredient.
In relationships, it can feel like some conversations are draining. Taking what we have in our heads and putting it into words is hard enough. Now, add saying it the right way for our partners to understand and get it.
Communicating in a way that doesn’t cause misinterpretation feels impossible. You need a translator that can slow the conversation and ensure that what you intend to say precisely is what your partner hears.
Expressing unmet needs rarely goes well. Some certain words and phrases are like landmines. Once you step on an all too familiar landmine, the explosion creates distance. How do you express unmet needs without your partner feeling criticized?
In couples therapy, I will listen to you to understand what happens in your heart and mind when you hear each other speak. Gaining this understanding is the key to guiding you to understand each other’s needs.
Restoring trust keeps you from drifting apart.
Trust is a big part of an intimate relationship. Sometimes, past and repeated hurts are never really processed.
Your in-laws disrespected you at a family function, and your partner failed to protect you. Your partner has flirtatious texts with a co-worker, and you found out about it after noticing suspicious behavior.
When you set limits with the kids, your partner undermines you.
Rebuilding safety and trust take a careful ear to prevent further hurt. In couples therapy, you will begin to retake small risks through created safety.
Create the relationship you want.
To prevent the blame game, we will uncover the pattern that is robbing your relationship of its joy. The destructive way is the real problem. You will learn how to work together on breaking this pattern.
We will uncover core needs that go back to your childhoods. Finding those needs will let you understand why you react strongly in certain moments. What you once met with anger will be met with empathy.
Even though your relationship has experienced hurt, you and your partner can still create a safe place for each other.
Email today to bring back the joy in your relationship.